I think most people have worked hard to try to “look good” in front of our friends and colleagues at work. In our society, we tend to place value on people by what or who they know, how good they look, and other external things. We do it because we want to be respected, loved or valued by people in our lives. In one of my favorite practical books for living, James says in 3:13-15,
“Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic.”
One of the vices that’s an easy trap is pride. I haven’t fully escaped this trap yet but always working on it. The vanity in trying to look good is driven by an idolatry inside of us for things we crave. It’s especially true in our workplace because we want to be promoted, recognized, admired or respected. Sometimes we get what we’re after… sometimes we don’t.
The downside to trying to “look good” is that we can get ourselves in trouble, and cause even more trouble… trouble in our workplaces, in friendships/relationships, and family-life. It causes more arguments, resentment, and just complicated negative vibes all over. It is unspiritual and demonic as it says in James. In v. 16: “For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.“
I get good vibes, positive energy and peace from people who have humility and self-confidence. Both humility and self-confidence are not mutually-exclusive, but they can go together. James says in vv. 17-18,
“But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.”
These are people I like to work with and hang out with. They’re easy to get-along with. They are not pretentious; they are genuine and authentic. I admired these kinds of people. Between humility or selfish ambition, I’d rather choose humility (a good article on humility at workplace here).
As we go about daily life, may we be encouraged to practice peace, and be sincere and authentic with others. Let’s not worry about trying to look good, smart, cool, or try to be better than others. It’s too much hard work anyway. If we just stay focused on our tasks, work hard, and ask God to help us be the best person we can be, we will naturally reap the benefits and rewards. Good things will eventually come to you like rain on parched dry land.