These days, divorce is high, especially in the western world, and conservative evangelicals and charismatics are not immune to it. Pastors are not immune to divorce either. Televangelist Pastor Benny Hinn is being divorced by his wife Suzanne Hinn. This is truly sad. Here is the letter (PDF) he sent to supporters concerning his divorce situation. Is there anyone to blame? Perhaps there is no one is to blame? If you take a look at Benny Hinn’s ministry schedule (which is public) you’ll see that it is pretty tight. It leads me to wonder if he spent enough time with his wife? It seems that Pastor Benny is married to his work-ministry. Suzanne Hinn is not a nun. She is a regular woman, wife and mother who needs her husband’s attention and love.
If I may be facetious for a minute, the only clergy immune to divorce are Roman Catholic priests. Perhaps this explains why the Roman Catholic Church chose to prohibit priests from getting married.
For clergy families, finding quality family time together is a big challenge. It should not surprise anyone who is, or who has been, in ministry that it is not easy for us to separate our work life from family life. It is too easy to be married to ministry. It will be wise to understand that the work of ministry is a never-ending drain of family time so we must divide our two worlds. Family is family. Church ministry is work. We ministers will have to learn to say “no” to some demands of ministry. If the two worlds are melded together without any clear boundaries of separation, the minister’s family will inevitably be hurt due to our neglect of spouse and children. I have personally faced this problem before.
I am learning and still learning how to practice what I preach. I’m trying to learn to balance family and work and separate my ministry from my family life. You may have noticed that I have been blogging less than before. It’s been a real time drainer in the past. Therefore, I have decided to spend more time with our daughter in the evenings while my wife works in the evenings. Yes, she also works to help pay the bills.
To my fellow bibliobloggers and ministers… and there are many out there… I hope and pray that God may give you wisdom and inner strength to do what is right for your family by putting them first.